Hello Empowered Humans!
Recently, during a trip to Maui, I learned an important lesson about disconnecting. I put my phone in what I thought was a dry bag… it wasn’t. That’s how my phone went for a swim, leaving me unexpectedly unplugged for the rest of the trip. While I initially panicked about losing photos and videos, what I gained from the experience was far more valuable: the joy of being truly present.
Without constant notifications, I felt lighter and more focused on the people and moments around me. It also gave me a lot to reflect on—especially how, despite being more “connected” than ever through technology, we’re often more disconnected from real relationships and interactions.
The Truth About Disconnection
Even though we’re always online, studies* show that social interaction and friendship are at an all-time low. Many of us are replacing meaningful, face-to-face connections with likes, comments, and scrolling. While these virtual interactions have their place, they don’t offer the depth and intimacy we need for a truly fulfilling life.
Why does this matter?
- Strong social bonds are linked to better physical and mental health, longevity, and happiness.
- Loneliness has been shown to increase stress, weaken immunity, and even raise the risk of chronic illness.
It’s clear: we need real, healthy connections now more than ever.
How to Foster Real Connections
Creating meaningful relationships takes effort and intention, especially in a world dominated by screens. Here are some ways to reconnect with others:
1. Make Time for Face-to-Face Interaction
- Schedule coffee dates, walks, or workouts with friends.
- Prioritize quality time with family—no phones allowed.
2. Join a Community
- Look for local groups, classes, or activities that align with your interests.
- Volunteer for causes that matter to you—it’s a great way to meet like-minded people.
3. Practice Active Listening
- Be fully present in conversations. Put away your phone and focus on the person in front of you.
- Show genuine interest by asking open-ended questions and sharing authentically.
4. Reconnect with Old Friends
- Reach out to someone you’ve lost touch with—it could lead to a deep and rewarding reconnection.
5. Set Boundaries with Tech
- Limit screen time so you have more energy for in-person relationships.
- Replace scrolling time with activities that involve others, like cooking with your family or playing a game.
The Irony of Connection
Technology has given us incredible tools to stay in touch, but it’s also distanced us from what truly matters. When we’re constantly checking notifications or glued to screens, we miss the chance to experience real, joyful moments.
My unintentional phone detox in Maui reminded me of this. I wasn’t distracted by my phone and instead soaked up time with my family, enjoying meaningful conversations and laughter. Those memories are far richer than anything I could have captured on a screen.
I even bought a journal and started writing in it, by hand. A practice I love but often forge for the convenience of my phone journal or notes app. I felt less influenced by “content” and able to actually think creatively and dream without bounds or constructs in my journaling.
Disconnecting Isn’t Just About You
Taking steps to unplug doesn’t just benefit your mental health—it strengthens the relationships around you. When you’re fully present with others, you show them they matter, creating a ripple effect of deeper trust and connection.
Let’s Reconnect
This weekend, I challenge you to create space for real connections. Whether it’s calling a friend, having a screen-free dinner with your family, or joining a local group, take one step toward fostering deeper relationships.
What’s your favorite way to disconnect and build meaningful connections? Hit reply and let me know—or share in our Empowered Coaching Facebook group. Let’s inspire each other to live fully, connected to the people and moments that truly matter.
Here’s to unplugging and reconnecting with what counts,
Coach Christine
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